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Hello Sister, I'm Alexis.

I help divorcées learn how casual sex repels good men and what activates the masculine bonding mechanisms that create commitment.

My coaching is for you if you are...

Ready to stop feeling confused, used, and abused.
Sleeping with men to accelerate commitment.
Consistently chasing men you know aren't good for you.
Only attracting indifferent or narcissistic men.
Longing to date mature, disciplined, healthy men.
Ready to learn how men's bonding biology works.
Willing to believe that good men do exist.

If this sounds like you, you'll love the Dating With Discernment Method ™!

To get you started, I'm gifting you The 7 Dating Rules To Avoid A Narcissist,

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Here's the hard truth...

Casual sex has opposite effects on men and women.

The problem is that we've been told that all men want is sex and that women are capable of keeping it casual.

Unfortunately, these are both lies.

The truth is that men and women have different bonding biology.

During intimate activities like hugging, kissing, and sex, women release oxytocin—the "bonding hormone."

For men, however, it’s more complex. While they release oxytocin, the effect is far weaker initially because testosterone—men’s dominant hormone—dilutes its impact.

Testosterone (the hunting hormone) is most potent when he's pursuing you. However, after sex, testosterone levels drop, which is why he loses interest.

Oyxotcin will become more dominant during sex when his testosterone softens, which only happens after he’s committed to you.

The catch is that for him to get to the point of commitment, vasopressin (the primary bonding hormone for men) has to be activated, which only happens OUTSIDE of the bedroom.

Vasopressin takes time because it’s cultivated through problem-solving, protecting, and providing.

Unfortunately, women unknowingly ruin this process when they have casual sex because they’re flooded with oxytocin and become immediately attached.

To continue bonding, they're always available, accessible, and accommodating.

However, these behaviors feel smothering and backfire by reducing testosterone and vasopressin levels, making him feel less bonded and more distant.

The solution?

The Dating With Discernment Method™ teaches you your casual sex kryptonite, the types of men you'll meet, and the dating with discernment rules.

Are you ready to stop having casual sex and start dating healthy men?

I'm Ready!

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My Dating After Divorce Story

I got married at 36 because I ignored red flags and was stuck in a toxic relationship.

However, I didn’t realize it until a few days after my marriage ended...

I had just completed child support paperwork at the county office while nursing my 2-year-old son with tears streaming down my face.

I felt dizzy as I stepped onto the sidewalk; my heart was racing, and my vision blurred.

Then it hit me: I DID THIS.

I realized that I was not a victim.

I ignored red flags from the start, and THIS was my rock bottom - I was a 39-year-old coach getting divorced with a toddler in tow.

My family lineage is saturated with dysfunctional relationships, and I had chosen the perfect partner to duplicate what was modeled for me.

I knew I had to learn how to manage my patterns better and make smarter choices when dating after divorce if I didn't want to end up here again.

However, healing isn't linear, and a few years later, I unknowingly got engaged to a narcissist.

I thought I had it all figured out with my dating frameworks and tools, but I had no idea that a narcissist would make red flags look green. I had no idea what love-bombing and future faking was. I just thought I was really special and had found The One. But this is how the manipulation begins, and it's almost impossible to leave once you're in a relationship with a narcissist because Stockholm syndrome sets in.

After 1.5 years of emotional, psychological, mental, and financial abuse, this relationship ended. I spent time working with a therapist and putting my life back together. Once the dust settled, I knew I had a responsibility to help other divorcées never experience what I just did.

Dating after divorce now requires an entirely new set of rules to discern between the three types of men you'll generally encounter: healthy, indifferent, and narcissistic. To address this, I've developed the Dating With Discernment Method ™ so you can discern between these three types of men and recognize red or green flags before your first date.

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