| Women's Dating Coach
About Dating With Discernment Method™
Meet Alexis A. Rosenbaum
​Founder | Dating Coach | Holistic Health Coach
My Mission
​​I empower women (30-50) to date confidently, avoid hookup culture, and attract emotionally available men using the science of bonding.
Through my Dating With Discernment Method™, I help women navigate modern dating with clarity, self-trust, and a structured approach that leads to lasting love.

My Story: From Heartbreak to Healing
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I got married at 36 while stuck in a toxic relationship. But I didn’t realize how deeply I had ignored red flags until a few days after my marriage ended. I remember standing outside the county office, having just completed child support paperwork, nursing my two-year-old son with tears streaming down my face. My heart raced, my vision blurred, and then it hit me: I DID THIS.
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I was not a victim. I had ignored the warning signs from the start. And this was my rock bottom. At 39 years old, I was a divorced mom, a coach who had built a career helping other women—yet I had failed myself.
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Determined to break the cycle, I dove into therapy (yet again) to work on my attachment style and childhood wounds, but something was missing. I didn’t yet understand the biology of bonding—the chemical reactions that made me overlook red flags and stay stuck in unhealthy relationships.
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A few years later, despite all my personal growth, I got engaged to a narcissist. Over 1.5 years, I endured emotional, psychological, mental, and financial abuse before finally breaking free. As I rebuilt my life, I made a vow: no other woman should have to suffer through this.
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The truth is, many women share my story. We come from family lineages filled with dysfunctional relationships, raised in a society that tells us the way to a man’s heart is through sex. So we give it to them, thinking it will make them stay—only to be left heartbroken, biologically bonded to men who never valued us.
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The reality? Hookup culture is the new standard, setting women up for failure. But science proves that casual sex biologically harms women while pushing emotionally available men away.
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Why I Created the Dating With Discernment Method™
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After my heartbreaks, I realized women need a new framework for dating—one based on science, self-worth, and discernment.
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That’s why I developed a 5-module system that teaches women how to:
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Understand the biology of bonding to avoid toxic relationships.
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Set and maintain boundaries that protect their emotional well-being.
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Identify emotionally available men who are ready for commitment.
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Follow a structured dating roadmap that prioritizes emotional connection before intimacy.
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This method isn’t just about finding love—it’s about breaking free from destructive patterns, reclaiming your power, and choosing men who truly value you.
Background + Credentials
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For over two decades, I’ve dedicated my life to personal development, holistic health, and transformational coaching.
I started as a wellness coach in Marin County and, a few years later, founded a divorce recovery program for single mothers in Venice Beach.
After my divorce in 2018, I launched Dating After Divorce, a coaching program to help women rediscover their confidence and attract healthy relationships.
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Today, I focus on science-backed dating strategies and helping all women avoid unnecessary pain and suffering.
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Certifications & Training
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SFSU, BA in Photography (2001)
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Landmark Forum & Advanced Course (2003-2004)
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World School of Holistic Health: Holistic Health Practitioner (2004)
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CIIS Somatic Therapy Program (2006-2008)
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CTI: Co-Active Coach Training (2017)
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JRNI Life Coaching Certification (2020)
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Plus 20+ additional certifications in wellness, personal development, and transformational coaching
Let’s Rewrite Your Love Story!
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If you’re tired of the heartbreak, the games, and the emotional rollercoasters, you’re not alone. I’ve been where you are, and I know the way out.
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It’s time to date with confidence, clarity, and discernment—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
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Ready to attract the relationship you deserve?
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📩 Get My Free Guide – Learn about the five types of men you'll meet & how to choose the right one.
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🎯 Explore My Coaching Program – Discover the Dating With Discernment Method™.
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📆 Book a Free Discovery Call – Let’s talk about your dating journey.
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Let’s build a future where love feels safe, fulfilling, and real.
